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I Married A Man Below My Social Class. My Family Ostracized Us for Six Years.

I was the brightest child in my family and was consistently at the top of my class through my school and university years. I was a young overachieving woman in my twenties and had my parents support to pursue whatever I wanted to in college. This was a big deal, given that many girls in Pakistan (even in aristocratic, wealthy, and/or well-educated

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Classism in India
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I Saw A Maid Stand For a Whole Hour at a Fancy Restaurant. Her Employers Did Not Feed Her the Whole Time

On a calm Sunday afternoon, I remember I was at a very expensive Indian restaurant waiting for some gurma gurm (endearing term that means delectably hot in Hindi) chapati with my fiancé. Sitting across from our table was a young married couple. The wife, clad in designer boots, jeans, a Louis Vuitton top, was having trouble finding a spot in the table

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My Wife Hates That I Am Close to My Mother

It is true that South Asian sons get coddled to the moon and back by their mothers. I was no different. Add to this that I was the only child in my family, and you can imagine how much love my mother gave me growing up. I had all the coolest toys, the best video games, and most importantly I remember my

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How Unacceptable Is It To Have a Relationship With A Servant?

I recently watched the movie Sir, on Amazon Prime. For those who have seen the movie, it follows a very controversial and touchy plotline. A recently divorced, wealthy upper-class man falls in love with his servant, a poor woman who dreams of doing fashion design. Without getting too much into the details of the movie and to avoid spilling spoilers, I will

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I Love Being The Perfect Wife.

I’m constantly told by my peers and colleagues, especially the female ones, that I am not like them. They tell me I am from their mothers’ and sometimes grandmothers’ eras. Some snippets from my daily conversations with my friends include: “Wow, your husband must adore you”. He does. “You are too sweet. You make him chai every day?” Yes, I do. I

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Desi Impostor Syndrome
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I’m Indian American, but I Hate my Homeland

Hate is a strong word. I don’t hate my homeland completely. I just really have an awful time every time I am there. It’s so bad, I don’t really want to go back anymore. I grew up totally American (All American, as I like to say). I was born and raised in San Jose, California. For those readers who have never been

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Daughter Loves Grandma
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3 Things I Wish I Could Share With My Late Nani

My Nani was a special woman. Yes, she shared many traits you’d associate with the typical Indian grandmother. She loved to cook, loved to take care of my Nanaji, and loved to dress up for weddings. But she also had a fiery independent side that came out in the way she raised her kids, with discipline, with guidance from the highest education

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